Yasss…They have kids too

Being a mother comes first in my life. I mean as soon as I wake and my feet hit the ground I’m in full mommy mode. So it comes to no surprise that my social life is non existent. I get invited to many blogging events and most aren’t kid friendly and just conflict with my mommy schedule. I work full time so after work its time to cook, clean and prepare for the next day. Then weekends are split between birthday parties, toddler events and SOCCER, yes I’m a soccer mom.

Well some how me and Lami became Facebook friends through mutual friends and she said she wanted to start blogging. Well you know me I was like go for it honey. Blogging is therapeutic as well as a way to start a mini business. I’m all for seeing other woman win. Well fast forward her blog @themillennialmuva launches.(Which is amazing please check it out). She starts a Instagram chat of beautiful talented black woman so that we can build a sisterhood and collaborate. Wednesday she suggest we all meet up and I say lets all go to Jupiter. Jupiter is a really good modern breakfast place in the Sugarland Square.

As meet up day approaches I’m running out of babysitter opitions. I decided Kai will have to go with me. Not knowing how others would feel about my active two year old joining our evening brunch. I waited until the day of to announce that I was bringing him along. To my surprise other woman in the chat replied “I’m bringing mine to” it was such a relief to hear I could have twerked. So now I’ve charged every electronic device, packed snacks and grabbed anything else that could possibly entertain him and we hit the road to get to the brunch. I knew with Kai coming I’d need to get there early settle him and have like a 1-2-3 talk “Don’t embarrass me, unless you want a pop pop”. In walks Shawna so I immediately introduce myself and apologize for my toddler running wild we had been placed in  private room and Kai was burning off energy. She didn’t seem to be bothered as the table filled with beautiful faces in walked Chenelle with her adorable two I leaped for joy like “Yasss I’m not alone”. Shawna was so sweet organized all the kids to one side of the table. Lami and her two came and were seated we had a full on party.

Somehow even with the children there with us they were not a distraction. We even forgot they were there. The TV was purposely changed to Disney. We sat at that big wooden table for hours just listening to one another’s goals and visions. We where productive holding each other accountable for what we want to do how to get there.

Towards the end I glanced over at my sleeping child and he had spaghetti sauce all over his face. Seemed like no one noticed which was hilarious. I cleaned his face and continued in conversation. Then as we left and went our separate ways I was driving home to nap of course and hit me. We all came together learned each others strengths and weaknesses as small business owners all down to encourage, lend a helping hand in any way possible. We all live busy lives weather we are students, moms or work multiple jobs but a few things were made clear you have to be determined to win every day, the desire to win has to mean more than desire to take easy routes. But you truly win, when your whole team wins. Who cares if we have kids that not going to stop us and the fact that I found woman who don’t mind kids and some even have children of their own I’m forever grateful for.

In conclusion “Who ever said you can’t have it all, must not have been a mom”.

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Why I regret saying “I want a BOY”

They say be careful what you wish for or you just might get it. From childhood I would always say “I want my first child to be a boy”.Even when I got pregnant my first thought was I hope and know that this child is a boy.

img_0831-2Modern day we even throw gender reveal parties to announce the babies gender before arrival. Cute and catchy themes like tutu’s or football’s.

I remember the day I found out the gender. Impatient at 13 weeks I paid a specialist to do a gender scan and 3D DVD. Well after 2min the specialist said “well this little fella isn’t shy it’s a …….Boy”.Instantly I cried tears of joy, I skipped right over a gender reveal and called everyone to announce the news.

Everyone congratulated me saying boys are the best. Their easy to raise but hard to shop for. I thought of all the sports he would play even went as far as selecting a future jersey number.

We began to select names, buy clothes and even decorate his nursery. As a first time mother I was excited I felt prepared reading all the books taking parenting classes. We would talk and try to guess who he would look like and act like.

Which brings me to my biggest regret. Now that I’m a mother and I’ve changed thousands of diapers, nursed him, watched him take his first steps and so much more. It hit me I prayed specifically for a boy selfishly. Why did his gender even matter. I should have been more focused on having healthy child.

Now that I’m a more seasoned parent I can say I’ll never put so much energy on a specific gender. Being able to naturally conceive and carry a child to turn is a journey, some never get that experience. I’m more than thankful for where this journey has taken me and honestly with the next little one I rather the gender be a surprise. I encourage everyone to understand if you have a boy a girl, if you carried naturally, had in-vitro or adopted each child/baby is truly designed and intended for you no matter the timing or the gender. I love my son unconditionally not because of his gender but because he the very best part of me.

Fall activity tips (pumpkin picking)

I’m at such peace when I wake up and open my doors to the fall weather. Since moving to the south Fall has been my favorite season. Now that I’m a mom I love decorating and participating in Fall activities with my little one. Over the weekend we visited Blessington Farm and picked out the cutest pumpkins. Below our my tips for pumpkin picking.

1. Wear comfortable shoes that you aren’t afraid to mess up- bring on a farm can be a bit messy I learned the hard way.

2. Pack Snacks- most pumpkin patches have activities and you and little one may be in need of a quick power snack.

3. Choose pumpkin wisely- I always go with our pumpkin crafting ideas in mind so I don’t under buy or over spend.

4. Have fun- from the food to the activities we had a blast.

Blessington Farm is kinda like a tradition for us now this is our third year and we always have a blast. Now that Kai is older he can enjoy a lot of the activities. This was a fun way to welcome in Fall.

5 Tips for Potty Training

Starting potty training is like riding a bike everything you try won’t work. Knowing when your little one is ready is key. Side note I buy his undies at TJMax and Marshalls because you get name brands at an affordable cost.

1. Make little one go when you go- this will build the routine of going potty.
2. Create a potty chart- With a potty chart you can visually see which times your little one typically needs to go potty.
3. Let them be nude- Our little one wear a t-shirt and no pull up and this helps him to know there’s no diaper or pull up to rely on.
4. Look for ques- when little one is quite or is about to grunt you know it’s potty time, as well as kai will hold or grab on to his pull up when potty time.
5. My all time favorite 15 min- to get Kai started we did 15 min in morning and 15 at night to get him familiar with the pot. This way he had no fear or wasn’t impatient and wanted to get off.

Although our toddler is not fully potty trained we are working with him everyday. Bonus tip find something they enjoy a book, toy or iPad and allow them to sit with the item while on the pot. As a parent potty training can be frustrating it will take time. We try not to shame or punish our little one for accidents because we want him to feel comfortable using potty and we are very proud that he will say boo-boo and pee pee.

How did you potty train your little one?

Sudbudz Bath Time, Play Time

Having a toddler can be rough, but try having a toddler boy. My little one loves the outdoors, bugs and especially dirt. So bath time is always a drag. I try to make bath time interesting and fun so special thanks to Sudbudz for this creative toddler bath ball that fizzles. Here are my tips for making bath time play time and how I used Sudbudz to help.

  1. Music- Typically we turn Disney Radio on in the bathroom and connect to the UE Boom.  This relaxes him and helps him catch the beat while scrubbing clean.
  2. Processed with VSCO with hb1 presetToys- Plastic Toys typically can find in the baby bath time aisle at many stores. (Target)
  3. Sudbudz- Ours came in the color blue, when the ball hit the water and fizzled Kai went crazy with happiness and then the water turned a cool blue.

The best part about Sudbudz is that it didn’t irritate Kai’s skin. The packaging was cute had little animals to describe it color ball. The ball was easy to use and left no stains perfect for getting the little one calm for bath time. Sudbudz can be found at Target and online use my VIP code MOMTEA10.

How do you make bath time fun? Drop tips below.

hoUSton August 28

I must admit that this is something that you can’t prepare for, something you could never guess was coming. To see a city that have grown to love over the past seven years under water still doesn’t feel like reality. Not being able to go to the grocery store, school or down the road due to flood waters. Hearing tornado sirens all through the night, the amount of uncertainty that we’ve experienced these past five days. Being a young mom to a toddler and remaining calm in the situation but I’m forever grateful.

 

To see a family with a young child carrying everything they own in a pack and play my heart broke into pieces. I will never take the simple things for granted. Which brings us to today we have gathered our family we will volunteer. We will help in any way to rebuild our city and we will continue to pray. Yes many can not donate this we understand but if you can pray or even be a helping hand. hoUSton will show this country how to come together no matter race, ethnicity or sexual orientation. For all those who have reached out thank you.