Mommy & Kai take on Disneyland

Growing up I spent many holidays in Los Angeles with my family. I remember when we all packed up and went to Disney the only problem was I was afraid of rides and characters at the time.

My little one has had an obsession with Mickey Mouse since he could stand and we had already went to Disney on Ice countless times so what was next? Disneyland. Off we went on a 6am flight landed at LAX breakfast then on to Disneyland. What was even greater is that our tickets to the park where free talk about a savings and they came with fast pass so no waiting in line.

The park had plenty of rides for my little one who is thirty five inches tall. From turkey legs to the tea cups we had a blast. So much of a blast I looked into his stroller at only 7pm and he was sleeping mouth open and all.

I left the theme park with memories to last a life time. To see his smile and him jumping for joy was well worth the exhaustion that my body is feeling right now. Now we are on to Knotts Berry Farm to see Snoopie.

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hoUSton August 28

I must admit that this is something that you can’t prepare for, something you could never guess was coming. To see a city that have grown to love over the past seven years under water still doesn’t feel like reality. Not being able to go to the grocery store, school or down the road due to flood waters. Hearing tornado sirens all through the night, the amount of uncertainty that we’ve experienced these past five days. Being a young mom to a toddler and remaining calm in the situation but I’m forever grateful.

 

To see a family with a young child carrying everything they own in a pack and play my heart broke into pieces. I will never take the simple things for granted. Which brings us to today we have gathered our family we will volunteer. We will help in any way to rebuild our city and we will continue to pray. Yes many can not donate this we understand but if you can pray or even be a helping hand. hoUSton will show this country how to come together no matter race, ethnicity or sexual orientation. For all those who have reached out thank you.

Traveling with a Toddler 

Even though this wasn’t our little ones first flight it was hands down his most active. His first flight he slept the entire flight. Now that he’s approaching two that’s changed the plane seems to be one big playground for him. Here are a few tips for traveling with a toddler.


1. Backpack- Kai is at the age where he wants to be independent so we pack him a small backpack full of snacks diapers and small toys.

2. Headphones- I found the perfect headphones for toddlers at Five Below. 

3. Crayons and Coloring book- It was easy to fold down the eating tray and allow him to use it as a desk to color away. 

4. Download Movies in advance- The week of our trip I downloaded 5 movies to his IPad of course “Minions” made the cut.

5. Book flight during nap or sleeping times- This works for us Kai naps between 11am-2:30 roughly every day. His bedtime is 9:30pm so we travel during those hours he’s relaxed and sleeping soundly.

6. While walking through airport or aircraft Daddy led the way Kai followed and I held down the back this way toddler can run ahead or fall behind airports can be hectic. With the system of one parent infront and one in back it allowed us to stay together as well give our child some independence. 

7. Airport Stroller- I will never take our nice jogging stroller to airport simply because things can get lost and I’d rather it be something cheap and inexpensive as well as the cheap strollers are more portable.

8. Lastly pack a small snack for each out of the flight- 4 hour flight I’d pack a granola bar, yougurt, veggie sticks, and fruits. Food is a distraction.

9. Pack toddler bags in advance- toddler clothes and gadgets are easier to forget because they are smaller packing ahead allows you to be organized. 

Traveling with a young child or a toddler can be unpredictable the best thing to do is make little one as comfortable as possible. If none of these tips help order a wine and plug your ears. That was just a joke. Enjoy your travel and be sure to like and subscribe to our blog. 

Grocery Shopping on a Budget

For the entire month of February MomTea will be focusing on money-saving tips for the everyday mom. From grocery store, and taxes all the way to personal saving habits.We are going to be saving the coins in 2017. First up is Grocery Shopping.

  1. Make a list- This helps me save time as well as stay organized.
  2. Bring Reusable Bags- This helps me not to over buy, most times if we have tons of bags food simply goes to waste
  3. Timing- Pick a shopping time when there wont be large crowds, avoiding crowds allows you to shop in peace and not rush
  4. Plan ahead- Planning meals ahead helps you to have all the ingredients ahead of time.
  5. Coupons/ Deals- Look for the savings and the deals, Our personal favorite is Kroger not only do we gain points towards gas but the app allows you to upload coupons right to your Kroger card.
  6. MOST IMPORTANT SET A BUDGET AND STICK TO IT- If it’s not in the budget put it back even if its your favorite cookie or pastry.

If you have any grocery tips please drop them below. Be sure to Share Tip Tuesday.

 

6 tips to Conquer Postpartum Depression 

Postpartum  depression (PPD) was the furthest thing from my mind during pregnancy, so once Kai was two months and I was diagnosed, I was ashamed. Becoming a new mom is a journey and on that journey, there will be a few bumps in the road. Here are a few of my tips to help conquer PPD:

  1. Speak up
  2. Keep a journal
  3. Find time for yourself
  4. Take breaks to help clear your head
  5. Lean on family and friends for support
  6. Join a support group of other moms

PPD is very common and mothers should feel comfortable to speak out about it. The cause of post-partum depression has many factors which include adjusting to motherhood, fatigue, psychological and hormonal changes as well as many others. I hope this post helps other moms who have had or are currently having symptoms of PPD feel more comfortable talking about their feelings and hopefully seek the support they need to cope.

Preference vs Ignorance 

I was scrolling down my timeline on Facebook one day when I saw a post that struck a nerve. The post read, “I’m not saying your baby mama ugly but she look real African.” I was immediately bothered and began to have flash backs. During my pregnancy, I would get questions like, “Are you afraid that your child will have nappy hair?” or “What if his complexion is dark?”. With his  father being 100% Nigerian-(Yoruba) made and proud, I would usually respond with a look of disgust. The only thing I was truly concerned about was having a healthy baby. Skin complexion and hair texture were at the very bottom of my list of concerns to say the least.

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I knew having a child of mixed culture would be a bit challenging. Never did I expect that I would get so many troubling questions and ugly stares from African-Americans when I’d respond, “Yes, he’s half Nigerian.” Before his birth, his father and I chose to name him a strong Yoruba name. I was proud to have a child whose name would have significant meaning despite so many people saying, “Oh, it’s hard to pronounce” or other remarks.

I was seven months pregnant and  I asked my midwife how soon I would be able to travel to Nigeria. She looked at me confused then asked me if I was sure I wanted to take him to Nigeria. We had previously spoken about traveling to Canada and she didn’t have the same hesitation. I waited to see if she had a medical reason as to why the trip wasn’t a good idea but instead, the woman looked at me and said “If you go to Nigeria, they will treat you horribly and keep your baby.” I looked at her; puzzled and annoyed,  got down from the table and left the building. When we traveled to Nigeria,  Kai was four months old. I can honestly say that it was the best experience of my life. From the food to the music to the culture, I enjoyed the every bit of my time there. I even enjoyed the  simple things like learning to bargain shop.

His father and I decided well before our son was born that we wanted him to know his culture, speak the language and always be proud. More often than not, some African-Americans associate anything of African descent as ugly or dirty failing to realize Africa is a continent encompassing countries like Egypt for instance. I’ve even had a friend say “if it ain’t foreign it’s boring.” *blank stare*

Many Nigerians look at me and assume that my respect and adoration of African culture is not genuine. Let me state very blatantly that this is far from the truth. I am an American woman, but my son will be raised to never ever be ashamed of who he is. I adore every bit of melanin in his skin. My biggest wish is that African-Americans and Africans can find common ground to understand one another’s cultures. We will teach our son about Juneteenth as well as  Nigerian Independence Day (October 1).

So to the men and women who don’t find the beauty in people from the many countries in Africa I say this; you are entitled to your preferences. Nevertheless, I challenge  you to  take a look in the mirror, look at your features and then  look at the faces of your children. Now, try to explain to your children that they’re not beautiful. What you might not realize is that trust me, somewhere in your bloodline, there is some Eritrean, Ghanaian or maybe Kenyan heritage. So those features that you seem to look down on or even hate might inevitably be a part of you. When I look at my son, I see a King and no one will ever make him feel inferior due to his skin tone, hair texture or any other stereotypical “African” feature. We must teach ourselves that our differences make us beautiful whether you have blonde hair & blue eyes or skin darker than the midnight sky. We are all beautifully crafted.

Well that’s the tea! Thanks for reading.

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