hoUSton August 28

I must admit that this is something that you can’t prepare for, something you could never guess was coming. To see a city that have grown to love over the past seven years under water still doesn’t feel like reality. Not being able to go to the grocery store, school or down the road due to flood waters. Hearing tornado sirens all through the night, the amount of uncertainty that we’ve experienced these past five days. Being a young mom to a toddler and remaining calm in the situation but I’m forever grateful.


To see a family with a young child carrying everything they own in a pack and play my heart broke into pieces. I will never take the simple things for granted. Which brings us to today we have gathered our family we will volunteer. We will help in any way to rebuild our city and we will continue to pray. Yes many can not donate this we understand but if you can pray or even be a helping hand. hoUSton will show this country how to come together no matter race, ethnicity or sexual orientation. For all those who have reached out thank you.


Whats in my Toddlers Lunch

I began packing Mahkai’s lunch a couple of weeks ago and have seen changes in his after school hunger, his bowl movements and as an added bonus he loves to carry his cute lunch box that I purchased at Kroger. Packing a lunch can be time-consuming to some but it’s so worth all the benefits like knowing exactly what your toddler is consuming.

I start by packing Mahkai a AM snack: granola bar and oranges

For lunch he has: chicken nuggets and steamed broccoli and carrots, with an Honest juice

Pm snack : Apple sauce and graham crackers

Bonus Snacks: pretzels and fruit snacks

I also always make sure my little guy has water to hydrate and I label it with his name, Each snack and meal is labeled to help his teacher, left up to any child or toddler they would just eat all the snacks from their lunch and toss out the food …… I did it growing up (sorry grandma). That’s all for Tips Tuesday be sure to share the tea.



7 Beginner Tips for Couponing

This week we are going to focus on Couponing. I never realized how much I could save by couponing  until it was time to buy diapers.Now I use coupons for everything food, household goods, and even clothes . Here are a seven of my tips and tricks to getting all of our house hold needs using coupons.

  1. Get the news paper. 
  2. Grab Scissors

Now that the easy part is out the way let’s get to couponing.

3. Have something to store coupons in, rather its a binder or a simple folder.

4. Have your shopping list handy- This helps you to know which coupons to look for.

5. Stacking Coupons for online Purchases- this always comes in handy when shopping at Carters. Why not use a 50% off and a 20% off at the same time.

6. Become a member- Rather its Costco, Randall’s or Kroger those points add up and check their weekly ads.

7. Coupon Websites to use: Coupons.com Couponmom.com & Coolsavings.com

BONUS: Get the app 51 Check out, you can gain a percentage of the money you spend back. Drop your Coupon tips below.


Preference vs Ignorance 

I was scrolling down my timeline on Facebook one day when I saw a post that struck a nerve. The post read, “I’m not saying your baby mama ugly but she look real African.” I was immediately bothered and began to have flash backs. During my pregnancy, I would get questions like, “Are you afraid that your child will have nappy hair?” or “What if his complexion is dark?”. With his  father being 100% Nigerian-(Yoruba) made and proud, I would usually respond with a look of disgust. The only thing I was truly concerned about was having a healthy baby. Skin complexion and hair texture were at the very bottom of my list of concerns to say the least.

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I knew having a child of mixed culture would be a bit challenging. Never did I expect that I would get so many troubling questions and ugly stares from African-Americans when I’d respond, “Yes, he’s half Nigerian.” Before his birth, his father and I chose to name him a strong Yoruba name. I was proud to have a child whose name would have significant meaning despite so many people saying, “Oh, it’s hard to pronounce” or other remarks.

I was seven months pregnant and  I asked my midwife how soon I would be able to travel to Nigeria. She looked at me confused then asked me if I was sure I wanted to take him to Nigeria. We had previously spoken about traveling to Canada and she didn’t have the same hesitation. I waited to see if she had a medical reason as to why the trip wasn’t a good idea but instead, the woman looked at me and said “If you go to Nigeria, they will treat you horribly and keep your baby.” I looked at her; puzzled and annoyed,  got down from the table and left the building. When we traveled to Nigeria,  Kai was four months old. I can honestly say that it was the best experience of my life. From the food to the music to the culture, I enjoyed the every bit of my time there. I even enjoyed the  simple things like learning to bargain shop.

His father and I decided well before our son was born that we wanted him to know his culture, speak the language and always be proud. More often than not, some African-Americans associate anything of African descent as ugly or dirty failing to realize Africa is a continent encompassing countries like Egypt for instance. I’ve even had a friend say “if it ain’t foreign it’s boring.” *blank stare*

Many Nigerians look at me and assume that my respect and adoration of African culture is not genuine. Let me state very blatantly that this is far from the truth. I am an American woman, but my son will be raised to never ever be ashamed of who he is. I adore every bit of melanin in his skin. My biggest wish is that African-Americans and Africans can find common ground to understand one another’s cultures. We will teach our son about Juneteenth as well as  Nigerian Independence Day (October 1).

So to the men and women who don’t find the beauty in people from the many countries in Africa I say this; you are entitled to your preferences. Nevertheless, I challenge  you to  take a look in the mirror, look at your features and then  look at the faces of your children. Now, try to explain to your children that they’re not beautiful. What you might not realize is that trust me, somewhere in your bloodline, there is some Eritrean, Ghanaian or maybe Kenyan heritage. So those features that you seem to look down on or even hate might inevitably be a part of you. When I look at my son, I see a King and no one will ever make him feel inferior due to his skin tone, hair texture or any other stereotypical “African” feature. We must teach ourselves that our differences make us beautiful whether you have blonde hair & blue eyes or skin darker than the midnight sky. We are all beautifully crafted.

Well that’s the tea! Thanks for reading.

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The Distance

Parenting rarely if ever goes as we plan. I was seven months pregnant when the journey began,parenting long distance. How can you parent while pregnant? Well we had to have plans for when the child arrived as well as updates with the constant doctors appointments.It was all about communication.


I started by always trying to involve my partner as much as possible. Rather it was choosing a name or something as simple as choosing a nursery theme. All major decisions were made together as one. There was a six hour time difference, we were in two different countries but we made it work.
Before the baby arrived I coped with the distance by taking parenting classes. I wasn’t just dealing with distance between my partner being away.My family also lives fourteen hours away.( I never moved back home after college).

I always treated things as if he was there, I’d make Father’s Day cards, birthday cards and cakes. Even with the miles of distance there was never a beat missed. I also kept myself busy. I found really close friends who were in similar situations that I was in and bonded with them.\The main goal for us was to keep our family as connected as possible. Knowing that the situation was temporary. It wasn’t easy a little over a year, there was FaceTime and Whatsapp. I have to give credit to our son keeping me busy and my family because even through the distance I talked daily with my grandmother and sister-in-law.

The meet up. The day of the arrival to the airport we decorated the house and arrived to the airport with a sign and balloons. Everyone was overjoyed. I was more excited for Kai to see his dad, so much had changed over the months. When we last where all together Kai couldnt crawl now he was walking. He went right to his father with no hesitation and has not  left his side since.

I believe because of our strong and constant communication, is why things fell into place . If your partner is in the military, prison or travels frequently I would encourage to keep the communication, and to remain positive because the situation is only temporary. That’s the tea of the week.