Tips Tuesday: Bedtime Reading

I began to read to Kai as a baby and somewhere I just fell off. I started to see how he became dependent on his tablet, or TV. As a parent this really bothered me one I didn’t have access to these types of devices as a child and secondly I wanted to get more hands on with the learning process. So I decided to bring back our bedtime reading.

  1. I purchase most of my books at Ross, TjMaxx or Marshalls, you find amazing children’s book a discounted prices.
  2. I created Kai a book shelf this way the books are organized and have a special place.
  3. I allow Kai to choose the book he wants to read, it gives him the chance to feel as though he is in control.
  4. I get into character I am very animated when reading to my little one it keeps his attention. Changing voices and using my hands for motions.
  5. I always involve him in the reading even if it means stopping and having him point to this or that image.

The goal in reading to Kai at night is to create a routine and to get him settled in for bed. I also want to encourage him to not be dependent on modern technology. I truly believe that learning begins in the home.  Until next time be sure to subscribe, like and share.

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Yasss…They have kids too

Being a mother comes first in my life. I mean as soon as I wake and my feet hit the ground I’m in full mommy mode. So it comes to no surprise that my social life is non existent. I get invited to many blogging events and most aren’t kid friendly and just conflict with my mommy schedule. I work full time so after work its time to cook, clean and prepare for the next day. Then weekends are split between birthday parties, toddler events and SOCCER, yes I’m a soccer mom.

Well some how me and Lami became Facebook friends through mutual friends and she said she wanted to start blogging. Well you know me I was like go for it honey. Blogging is therapeutic as well as a way to start a mini business. I’m all for seeing other woman win. Well fast forward her blog @themillennialmuva launches.(Which is amazing please check it out). She starts a Instagram chat of beautiful talented black woman so that we can build a sisterhood and collaborate. Wednesday she suggest we all meet up and I say lets all go to Jupiter. Jupiter is a really good modern breakfast place in the Sugarland Square.

As meet up day approaches I’m running out of babysitter opitions. I decided Kai will have to go with me. Not knowing how others would feel about my active two year old joining our evening brunch. I waited until the day of to announce that I was bringing him along. To my surprise other woman in the chat replied “I’m bringing mine to” it was such a relief to hear I could have twerked. So now I’ve charged every electronic device, packed snacks and grabbed anything else that could possibly entertain him and we hit the road to get to the brunch. I knew with Kai coming I’d need to get there early settle him and have like a 1-2-3 talk “Don’t embarrass me, unless you want a pop pop”. In walks Shawna so I immediately introduce myself and apologize for my toddler running wild we had been placed in  private room and Kai was burning off energy. She didn’t seem to be bothered as the table filled with beautiful faces in walked Chenelle with her adorable two I leaped for joy like “Yasss I’m not alone”. Shawna was so sweet organized all the kids to one side of the table. Lami and her two came and were seated we had a full on party.

Somehow even with the children there with us they were not a distraction. We even forgot they were there. The TV was purposely changed to Disney. We sat at that big wooden table for hours just listening to one another’s goals and visions. We where productive holding each other accountable for what we want to do how to get there.

Towards the end I glanced over at my sleeping child and he had spaghetti sauce all over his face. Seemed like no one noticed which was hilarious. I cleaned his face and continued in conversation. Then as we left and went our separate ways I was driving home to nap of course and hit me. We all came together learned each others strengths and weaknesses as small business owners all down to encourage, lend a helping hand in any way possible. We all live busy lives weather we are students, moms or work multiple jobs but a few things were made clear you have to be determined to win every day, the desire to win has to mean more than desire to take easy routes. But you truly win, when your whole team wins. Who cares if we have kids that not going to stop us and the fact that I found woman who don’t mind kids and some even have children of their own I’m forever grateful for.

In conclusion “Who ever said you can’t have it all, must not have been a mom”.

Why I regret saying “I want a BOY”

They say be careful what you wish for or you just might get it. From childhood I would always say “I want my first child to be a boy”.Even when I got pregnant my first thought was I hope and know that this child is a boy.

img_0831-2Modern day we even throw gender reveal parties to announce the babies gender before arrival. Cute and catchy themes like tutu’s or football’s.

I remember the day I found out the gender. Impatient at 13 weeks I paid a specialist to do a gender scan and 3D DVD. Well after 2min the specialist said “well this little fella isn’t shy it’s a …….Boy”.Instantly I cried tears of joy, I skipped right over a gender reveal and called everyone to announce the news.

Everyone congratulated me saying boys are the best. Their easy to raise but hard to shop for. I thought of all the sports he would play even went as far as selecting a future jersey number.

We began to select names, buy clothes and even decorate his nursery. As a first time mother I was excited I felt prepared reading all the books taking parenting classes. We would talk and try to guess who he would look like and act like.

Which brings me to my biggest regret. Now that I’m a mother and I’ve changed thousands of diapers, nursed him, watched him take his first steps and so much more. It hit me I prayed specifically for a boy selfishly. Why did his gender even matter. I should have been more focused on having healthy child.

Now that I’m a more seasoned parent I can say I’ll never put so much energy on a specific gender. Being able to naturally conceive and carry a child to turn is a journey, some never get that experience. I’m more than thankful for where this journey has taken me and honestly with the next little one I rather the gender be a surprise. I encourage everyone to understand if you have a boy a girl, if you carried naturally, had in-vitro or adopted each child/baby is truly designed and intended for you no matter the timing or the gender. I love my son unconditionally not because of his gender but because he the very best part of me.

Traveling with a Toddler 

Even though this wasn’t our little ones first flight it was hands down his most active. His first flight he slept the entire flight. Now that he’s approaching two that’s changed the plane seems to be one big playground for him. Here are a few tips for traveling with a toddler.


1. Backpack- Kai is at the age where he wants to be independent so we pack him a small backpack full of snacks diapers and small toys.

2. Headphones- I found the perfect headphones for toddlers at Five Below. 

3. Crayons and Coloring book- It was easy to fold down the eating tray and allow him to use it as a desk to color away. 

4. Download Movies in advance- The week of our trip I downloaded 5 movies to his IPad of course “Minions” made the cut.

5. Book flight during nap or sleeping times- This works for us Kai naps between 11am-2:30 roughly every day. His bedtime is 9:30pm so we travel during those hours he’s relaxed and sleeping soundly.

6. While walking through airport or aircraft Daddy led the way Kai followed and I held down the back this way toddler can run ahead or fall behind airports can be hectic. With the system of one parent infront and one in back it allowed us to stay together as well give our child some independence. 

7. Airport Stroller- I will never take our nice jogging stroller to airport simply because things can get lost and I’d rather it be something cheap and inexpensive as well as the cheap strollers are more portable.

8. Lastly pack a small snack for each out of the flight- 4 hour flight I’d pack a granola bar, yougurt, veggie sticks, and fruits. Food is a distraction.

9. Pack toddler bags in advance- toddler clothes and gadgets are easier to forget because they are smaller packing ahead allows you to be organized. 

Traveling with a young child or a toddler can be unpredictable the best thing to do is make little one as comfortable as possible. If none of these tips help order a wine and plug your ears. That was just a joke. Enjoy your travel and be sure to like and subscribe to our blog. 

The Addiction

I’m guilty, I have been hiding a secret from my readers. The first step is admitting the problem. Clears throat: “Hi my name is TearuaL and I’m addicted to shopping for Kai clothes. I began to realize I had a problem once he began to outgrow things before even being able to wear them. Yes I budget, Yes I catch deals but a habit is still a habit good or bad.

When you go in the little girls section there are many options, but once you find the small boys section many of the items look cheap or just all the same. Dinosaurs, Dogs and Frogs. So I’m always very creative when it comes to styling Kai. Honestly his fashion choices and style I put more into than my own. I have a sense of guilt if I shop and don’t purchase at least one item for Kai.

The negative comments that I get from many people are why do I spend so much on children’s clothes. Here is the gag I look at his clothes as an investment, I plan to have more children who will be wearing hand me downs. I shop on a budget and coupon. The tips I use while shopping for Kai are simple.

  1. Countless times I go in Gap, or Carters and shop off season on the Clarence rack finding some deals as low as 99 cent.
  2. I take out cash while shopping, once I’m out of cash I wont swipe my card this keeps me in budget.
  3. I subscribe to every type of point and reward their is and  the benefits is getting the offers or percentage off on your purchase.
  4. Lastly I go to off retail department shops such as Ross, TJmax and Nordstrom Rack to get all of his shoes and discounted designer brands.


Will I seek help for my addiction probably not. I see it as people will spend their money as they see fit and no matter what clothes Kai wears only I would truly know the price so what may look $100+ may only be $10. This is my guilty pleasure I not giving up. What are your fashion tips for your little one. 

 

 

Restaurant Etiquette 101-Toddler Edition

Every parent has that stressful feeling of taking your baby/toddler to a restaurant, childrens behavior can be unpredictable.  There’s always that one table with the crying child or the child who is extremely active and can’t sit still. Well I don’t have all of the answers but here are a few tips to hopefully minimize the stress.

  1. A quick snack or for babies a quick bottle/feeding- This will help the child to be patient before the meal arrives. Typically with Kai we pack fruit snacks or granola bars.
  2. Dress for the Occasion- Yes Kai is to old for the traditional bib but luckily I found a shirt bib for him at Ikea. A parents biggest fear is their little one ruining a perfectly good outfit.
  3. Pack baby proof utensils- I carry a spoon and fork in Kai’s backpack because he’s not at the age of using silver utensils.
  4. Wet wipes/Sanitizer- We all know how messy little one’s can be, have wet wipes or santitizer near
  5. The distractions- In other words TOYS. It could be a tablet, crayons paper or even cars. Bring some type of distraction to keep little one busy.
  6. Table mat- Keeps germs away and gives little one a clean surface to eat from. Their disposable and easy to clean up. Check out @simplynaturalbabies selection of table mats.
  7. Order easy- We get Kai finger food like chicken tenders that way he can feed himself and we can enjoy our meal in peace as well.

Thanks for reading.Happy Tuesday.

5 Tips to deal with Eczema

I would always moisturize Kai’s skin after bath time and just lay and smell him. Who doesn’t love the smell of a fresh baby? Once Kai turned six months we took a weekend trip to Toronto to visit grandma. We live in warm Houston,Texas and Toronto is not the most tropical of places. I grew up in the Midwest so I prepared myself and little baby for the snow and cold weather. I began to notice a change in his skin and rashes. Nervously as a first time mom I ran to google searching for answers. I assumed he had chicken pox or something serious his pediatrician calmed my panic when she said he has eczema. Eczema is very common and to sum it up it’s just dry patches of skin. Here are my 5 tips when dealing with eczema.

1.Always moisturize  and leave skin a little damp  before applying lotion this helps to lock in more moisture.    

2.Find the product that works best for you, For my little guy we use Aveeno. Other products that are recommended are Euccerin and Cetaphil.

3.Trying natural or home remedies such as apple cider vinegar, coconut oil, or even epson salt can help.

4.Foods that help are foods high in iron like spinach, asparagus and if you prefer something sweet grab an apple.

5.Foods to stay away from or eat less of ,would be grains and dairy these could cause more outbreaks.

The best thing I did was learned what works for my baby the best. He has more out breaks in the winter than the summer as well as I changed all of our household products to more natural products such as the Honest company or the Method company. Lastly don’t panic Eczema is very common. Google will have you in the Emergency room for a simple paper cut. Thats all for Tip Tuesday be sure to share and like.